Oral doesn't count huh? Ok.

Okay so....

I may be late with this story but that's because I don't actually watch the Braxton reality show...whatever it's called. Not my thing. I just happened upon this gossip type news from another web-site while reading something a bit more pertinent to my interest.

Anyway, let me first start by saying: I don't think she's a slut and could care less. I mean, she could be. Who knows. I don't know her. I haven't slept with her and as far as I can recall, she's never blown me. Which...brings me to the point of this quick blog entry.

When asked about why she performed oral sex on some random dude outside of her marriage, Ms. Braxton says:

" It wasn’t about getting back. It was about my own self-esteem." 


? Okay ? So.......self esteem yeah? She wanted to see if another man would want her to blow him? See if she still "had it", could get a man aroused? Or, she wanted to see if she still had the SUPER HEAD skills to get another man off other than her husband?

Continuing.....She says the following:

“Honestly, Auntie Jamie, I’m one of those people, I don’t have but so many notches on my belt. When it comes down to it, numbers mean a lot to me, and I’ve never been the type of woman to spread myself thin and let every Tom, Dick and Harry—or every Tom’s hairy d*ck—to associate with me and my body; not to sound vulgar. 
I don’t allow that with my body; I just don’t. I do not. I did not, and I will not.”

? Okay...again ?

So....based on that...and I'm just....curious here.....Not to sound vulgar....She doesn't have too many notches on her belt and doesn't want to add any more...(belt being, below the belt and inside her) BUT....her mouth is a different story yeah? So....on that premise.....she may have had a WHOLE lotta penis..(sorry to my conservative fam and friends reading) in her mouth and that's no issue! ? ?! So "Tom, Dick, Harry and whoever are free to get off in her throat and that doesn't count toward the "notches" thing yeah? Wow...how's that for "Braxton Family Values" yeah?!

See...this is just curious to me because ....and allow me to be perfectly frank..I mean CHARLES here: I've always been of the thought that most black women (yes, I'm making this a race thing)....would prefer to have full on sex rather than put lips to stick. Just my thought. This is a stereotype I've heard and have had experience with. Black women swearing that oral/giving head.....is faaarrrr more personal and not something they do to just any and everyone. Only someone they love or are truly feeling. (Although, I've heard that whole speech and still ended up receiving oral....fun) Hell, I'm not even disagreeing with them. Kind of don't want to think a woman you're with has been putting too much in her mouth. Like to think she's had some discretion yeah?

Ladies....please.....if I'm wrong.....shout me out. Fellas, am I right? Have you heard this?

Anyway.....I couldn't help but post up on the subject when I read this. I just find some of it....weird and disturbing. Not judging her, just pointing out the obvious that her sexual/moral logic meter is kind of....off.

One more thing:

I wonder what percentage of men would be more pissed that she blew another man vs. actually just having sex. ? I mean, if we go with the whole 'oral is much more persona, sacred" thing...well then.....she really violated yeah?

Oh, keep in mind....I'm not faulting her for her extamarital oral exploits. Her husband apparently had it coming. Then again....so did the other guy!

See link below for story:

http://www.theybf.com/2012/01/19/trina-braxton-reveals-the-dirty-deets-about-her-oral-transaction-and-says-shes-not-a-slut

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The non-glamour nudes!

I see a lot of work out there with very attractive women/models. I see a lot of great work being done and creative concepts. Many with talented make up artists and stylists. Many using Photoshop to create dazzling efx, backgrounds and dynamic looks. I see a lot of the typical..."booty" stuff as well. Some gorgeous women with lovely...ASSets and such being shot in bikinis, thongs, towels, etc. Usually bent over cars, standing on a brick wall or seductively posed on a couch, bed or random studio wall. Problem is, after some time, you can only look at those images for so long before you realize that they're all pretty much the same. Even if the model is different and the post processing fx or styling in the shoot is a bit different. We tend to look at the woman's body and size her up without actually getting a sense of the purity and essence of the female form in it's truly romantic state. They're usually all about the "booty" and no matter how fine the woman is or how seductively posed she is, the shots lack...the "beauty!" This shoot for the Pirelli Calendar with Mario Sorrenti as photographer captures the loveliness and divine beauty of women without having to do anything extreme. The nudity doesn't overwhelm the images to the point where all you see is...ass, breasts or whatever. You see the entire image as gorgeous. The natural setting in Corsica of course helps. I haven't shot (officially, since becoming a professional) any nude women or bikini, booty type of stuff. I would welcome the opportunity if the right model(s) come my way and only if I can be sure enough of myself to create images that will last beyond the first saliva inducing glance of the model and her...ASSets. I have had opportunities to shoot some lovely, luscious models in those SMOOTH MAGAZINE, EYE CANDY type settings. I haven't done so yet. It wouldn't be a hard job to shoot a bootylicious model in studio, or lying on a bed, chaise lounge or standing in a shower pressed up against a wall. But I simply wouldn't see the point. I'd love to shoot something sexy that forces the viewer of the image to not only see the obvious in the image, but to take the whole composition and admire it in it's entirety.

You can view the behind the scenes video of the calendar shoot below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=gjjF5yQmVw4&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fs.ytimg.com%2Fyt%2Fswfbin%2Fwatch_as3-vflPZYogr.swf

Top 10 Sexiest women of all time! All time?

Well, it's that time of year again when many publications, organizations and assorted media outlets put out their "top 10" lists. (No, nothing like David Letterman's lists.) In fact, some of these lists go well beyond top ten. There are top fifty as well as top 100. The more familiar lists include albums, artists, books and movies. People magazine, being one of the more notable magazines has made it their annual ritual to name the "fifty sexiest" or "most beautiful" people in the world. Recently, I responded to a friend's Facebook post which stated: "I don't want to be sexy, I want to be beautiful." To which my response was: "Trick is to be both. Beautiful is a result of good dna and good energy from within. Sexy...is how you handle that beauty and is a state of being." She, and a bunch of others agreed. Well, getting back to the lists, this morning, I happened to hear that Men's Health magazine published their "Top 10 Sexiest Women of All Time" list. That's ALL TIME! Now, for the most part, I could care less. But seeing as how they were taking the time to make this "Sexiest of ALL TIME" I just HAD to know who made the list and whether or not I would agree. (even if the ranking was different than my own.)

The news only showed the top 5 as follows:

5. Madonna

4. Britney Spears

3. Marilyn Monroe

2. Raquel Welch

1. Jennifer Aniston

Really? I mean...wait.....REALLY? Now, I've got nothing against Jennifer Aniston but, sexiest of ALL TIME? Men's Health backed up their ridiculous ranking by suggesting Jennifer's sense of humor and down to earth persona make her....sexy. Well, I'll admit, those can be sexy qualities in a woman. Me personally, I find intelligence to be extremely sexy. However, I've met some very intelligent women who just weren't....sexy. My point here is that while Jennifer is an attractive woman and has some qualities that some men may find sexy, she's far from actually being truly, overall SEXY! In fact, she's probably the furthest thing from most people's mind when they think of sexy. In my book, when you say sexy, especially sexiest...of ALL TIME.... you're talking about those women who have smoking great looks, usually accompanied by great bodies and that...special...WOW, IT factor that just has both men and women mesmerized. Add to the looks, a way of talking that just ignites forest fires and can simultaneously melt icebergs. A style that just captivates. A sensual way of moving which begs you to follow their every gesture. And, of course, an inner confidence and strength that fortifies their physical appearance and feminine beauty.

Sexy doesn't always mean the most beautiful. But it certainly doesn't even come close to our...Friend.....Jennifer. But hey, beauty/sexiness...is in the eye of the beholder yeah?

"Sexy is as sexy does!" Each person's version of sexy is definitely going to be different.

Here's my list: (In no order.... really)

1. Rihanna
2. Raquel Welch
3. Pam Grier
4. Monica Belluci
5. Salma Hayek
6. Naomi Campbell
7. Lisa Nicole Carson (hey, remember, this is MY list!)
8. Kim Kardashian (just forget the fact that you hate her for not really being talented or not.)
9. Naomi Campbell
10. Dorothy Dandridge

Fathers to sons: Tradition passed down.

As the father of a four year old boy, I look forward to all of the wisdom, advice, corny jokes and general knowledge I’ll need to pass along to my son.

I look forward to it but dread it at the same time. I often struggle with feeling as if I have to be “Super Dad” just to be sure that I know everything and can actually answer many of the inevitable questions he’s sure to come to me with. You know the questions kids come up with these days: “What does OPEC stand for?” , “Who invented the internet?” , “What’s the distance between the earth and the sun?.” “Why is Paris Hilton famous?” (Thank god for Google!) I’ll also have to bone up on all of my sports knowledge and athletic skills just to keep up! All of that and of course, the basic, practical stuff that all men learn and will serve them well throughout their adult lives like, how to tie a tie, how to have a suit properly tailored, how to properly order a bottle of wine in a restaurant, how to always be a gentleman with the ladies and of course, how to shave. Of all the things we’ll teach our sons, shaving will be the one daily ritual that will perhaps serve to be one of the most important for the rest of their adult lives.

So why not get it right! ? Far too many men have abandoned the traditional means of shaving for the more, “fast food” approach of shaving. A plastic, multi blade, battery operated gizmo and a can of high pressurized…crap which gets spread across the face with…fingers? Umm, no!

Not sure when the art of shaving became, less than art and men abandoned the traditional means, but it’s time for the classic “wet shave” to make its way back to the everyday ritual.

SAVING FACE:

First things first: Ditch the random cans of pressurized shaving creams and gels. It’s all crap for lack of a better word and simply not able to lubricate your skin properly for a smooth shave. Go with a traditional shave soap or cream. May seem a little more pricey than the can stuff, but it lasts much longer and will provide your face with the ultimate in luxury feel and smoothness when putting blade to skin. Check out some of the old school, English shave shops like Taylor of Old Bond Street ( http://www.tayloroldbondst.co.uk/ or Geo F. Trumper http://www.trumpers.com/. They each have an amazing line of products and you’d be hard pressed to find anything better.

Second: Lose your fingers! Invest in a decent, pure badger hair shave brush. This is probably the most important part. You simply can’t prepare your face for a good shave by slathering on shave cream with your finger tips. A shave brush helps to lift the hair on your face and exfoliate the skin. Both critical to the shave process. A good badger hair brush will run between $30 to $100 and can get even pricier. Badger hair is best for retaining moisture and will be significantly more effective than a cheaper, boars hair brush.

Third: Toss the Gillete “Mach 25”, “Fusion”, 6 to 8 blade having… whatever razor and buy yourself a classic DE (double edge) safety razor. You can look online to find a decent one. I’m currently using a Merkur Heavy Duty razor. (check Amazon) Right away you’ll notice the weight and substantial feel of this razor in your hand. You’ll sense that this is a man’s razor and never return to the plastic. Using a DE razor will take some time and practice to get used to. You don’t need to press down on your strokes. The blade simply glides smoothly over your face and the weight of the razor does most of the work for you. Keep in mind also, that in the long run, you'll be saving money not having to buy the disposable blades and you'll be doing your part to save the environment by not having to throw out the plastic.

TAKE YOUR TIME! DO IT RIGHT!

Now that you’ve got the equipment, time to get to the shave! Like many things we’ll one day teach our son’s, shaving should be one of those things that’s done slow and steady for maximum effect. Preparation is essentially the key here. A good shave requires the facial pores to be opened, so it’s usually best to shave when you first come out of a hot shower. If not, be sure to soak your face with a really hot wash rag/towel. Once your pores are open and ready, time to brush on some shave soap. Put about a nickel sized amount of soap into your shave mug. (any mug or soap bowl will do really.) Dip the shave brush into hot water then mix the soap up to a nice froth. Use the brush to then lather up the soap all over your face using a circular motion. Take your time! A good minute or two of just brushing on the lather will really prep the skin and hairs. Once you’re lathered up, time to get your shave on. I won’t get into “how to use a razor” here. From this point, it’s really pretty basic. Go with the direction of your hair growth. Use nice, smooth, easy, short strokes and rinse the blade each time. Remember, using a safety razor doesn’t require pressing hard against your face. Let the razor do the work and most important, again…TAKE YOUR TIME! I prefer to go over everything once, then re-lather up and pass the blade a second time, sometimes even three times. When done with the shave, rinse with cold water then finish off with a good, alcohol free after shave to soothe your skin. Trumper’s Coral Skin Food is a great choice: http://www.trumpers.com/product_detail.cfm?ProductID=111547341 You can also use it as a pre-shave.

Once you get into this routine and ditch the “on the fly” “hurry up and rush” shave, you’ll start to appreciate it and will even consider shaving a relaxing experience. I tend to shave at night, after a nice shower. I find my shave time to be a luxury and a peaceful, soothing way to end my day. The effort you put into your shave will be well worth it later and your face will more than appreciate it as time goes on. If you have sensitive skin or are prone to razor bumps, this method will undoubtedly serve you well.

The classic shaving accessories and the method are simply unbeatable. Not to mention, there's a sense of elegance, sophistication and style that goes with it all. In the end, the joy of passing this knowledge down to your son(s) one day will be much appreciated by them and truly gratifying for yourself.

For more information on classic shaving, shaving products and more, check out some of the following links:

http://www.tayloroldbondst.co.uk/

http://www.trumpers.com/index.cfm

http://www.markofagentleman.com/index.html

http://www.markofagentleman.com/index.html

http://www.classicshaving.com/Home.html

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Shame on the media!

Why on earth is MSNBC and a host of other news/media networks covering FORMER vice president "DICK" Cheney's pathetic speech at this hour while our ACTUAL, REAL PRESIDENT, OBAMA is giving a speech as well!? I have to get a little up in arms over the media every so often. MSNBC had been covering Obama's speech meant to provide details on the numerous reforms, initiatives and bills he's putting into place primarily surrounding Guantanamo Bay and "enhanced interrogation" (torture!) techniques. Roughly twenty minutes into Obama's speech, they cut coverage and began broadcasting DICK's speech! HE'S THE FORMER VP!! Let this guy go play golf, hunt, fish or....even better....DIE!!! Either that, or lock his crotchety old ass up for the crimes he has committed against this country! FORMER----the PAST! The PREVIOUS! GET LOST!! GO AWAY! Why should our CURRENT president share the media or worry about debating and going "head to head" with a screw up from the previous administration!! At least dumb dumb (BUSH) is wise enough to keep himself out of the spotlight and disappear. He knows he was a moron, knows he's responsible for much of the current state of affairs. I think he's honestly just glad to be out of the way and alleviated of the responsibility.
DICK... is doing nothing more in his speech but bringing out the same old tired, Republican playbook that does nothing but talk about 911, terrorism and how much DANGER we're in......and how crucial it is for us to PROTECT ourselves and how OBAMA is somehow making us less safe! I guess I can't even blame DICK! I blame the media for letting him have any spotlight when he's nothing more than a has been. Retire his old ass to one of those celebrity reality shows and let him go toe to toe with one of the less successful Baldwin brothers or one of the Gary's---Gary Coleman or Gary Busey!!

(I was going to post a picture of DICK here...but decided against it! The fact that it's pissing me off enough to have to write about him and discuss him really bothers me and makes me almost as guilty as the media for showing him any attention!)

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All about "Uhura!"

This is simply a quick "review" of sorts on Paramount pictures latest film version of the cult television classic show STAR TREK! First and foremost let me preface my opinion by stating that I was never a Trekky! I grew up a HUGE Star Wars fan which sort of pre-disposed me to a natural opposition to the Star Trek culture. It was STAR WARS vs. STAR TREK! I rarely knew anyone who was gung ho about both in equal amounts.
Now because I wasn't a Trekky, that doesn't mean I didn't get into the show here and there. I was a natural science fiction fan so of course a show about a ship full of people exploring the galaxy would appeal to me. As did Battlestar Galactica, Buck Rogers, Space 1999 and a few other campy space shows. Out of those few, Star Trek would definitely be the top favorite. As for the first set of films released back in the eighties...I NEVER got into any of them. I saw the first two but really don't recall either of them. As for the numerous television shows that followed, I may have watched a few episodes of DEEP SPACE NINE but wasn't a huge fan of any.

2009's Star Trek is a precursor to the original story line accounting for the history and origins of most of the Enterprise crew including James T. Kirk, Leonard McCoy ("Bones") and of course the iconic pointy eared Vulcan genius, Spock. We get a glimpse into their years as adolescents, right up to their admission into the Star Fleet academy. For people who are definitely familiar with the characters, this is a fun and revealing look at their classic personalities and how they all became connected.
The film is visually entertaining and well paced. But more important and critical to the success of the film, the acting was truly great. Chris Pine as young Capt. Kirk nailed the role as a wise cracking, skirt chasing, sometimes arrogant more often rightfully confident young man with a lot on his shoulders. Karl Urban as the young Dr. Leonard McCoy was superb and probably the best actor in the cast. While Zachary Pinto as Spock held down the Vulcan seriousness and stoic look in a way that would make the original Spock, Leonard Nimoy proud. (Leonard Nimoy actually plays a part in the film). Rounding out the cast of characters of course is Scotty, Sulu, Chekov and of course...Uhura!!
Quick note on Uhura: As I mentioned earlier, I wasn't a die hard fanatic of the show. However, one of the MAIN reasons I did watch was to see Uhura, at the time played by actress Nichelle Nichols! Goodness! I'm pretty sure she was one of my very FIRST crushes! The role is filled this time by Zoe Sardona. While not as fantasy arousing gorgeous as Nichelle Nichols, she does do a rather mesmerizing job with the role and definitely sets off some fire as a young, beautiful and ridiculously intelligent linguist who must "Have a great tongue" as Kirk implies in the movie.
She wears the uniform VERY well and the quick scene where she undresses down to her underwear will surely create a whole new fan base for her!!
Oh, and let me not forget the excellent performance of Eric Bana as the evil Romulin Nero. The role in the hands of a less seasoned and talented performer would have just come off as boring and overplayed. Bana does a fine job portraying an angry, hell bent on revenge bad guy with a serious ax to grind!
So....Overall, great cast, great story line and a wonderful "new beginning" for the forty some odd year old story!



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This blog has NOT been rated---by the motion picture association of Ameria!

The business of film and television is just that: BUSINESS!
As an aspiring film maker/producer, I've learned an awful lot about the business and have had to digest certain realities that often elude people who are not fully aware of ins and outs of the industry. Take for example MPAA ratings- MPAA stands for MOTION PICTURE ASSOCIATION of AMERICA. This is the organization that among other services provides the ratings for films, i.e.: G, PG, PG 13, NC 17, R, X, XXX.
Filmmakers are often held captive to the considerations of these ratings when they’re in various stages of production including pre-production and right through the cutting (editing) stage. Most of the concerns revolve around the amount of violence or depiction of violence and of course…sex and nudity! As far as violence, it comes down to numerous factors: how many people are being hurt, maimed or killed? In what manner are they being hurt, maimed or killed? How much blood? How is the bleeding depicted? Blood spurting out or just leaking? Decapitation? Dismemberment? Psychological violence? How many “disturbing” images and graphic shots are being displayed? And, how are these images and depictions being used in relation to the actual story line and context of the film? As for sex, things are broken down pretty much the same: How much nudity? How much of a breast or both breasts are being shown? How much nipple, if any at all? How much ass? Full frontal woman? Full frontal man? Both? Consensual, adult sex? Rape? Violence and sex? Oral sex? Felatio? Cunnilingus? Sex between married couples? Between singles? Group scenarios?
Small considerations like what angle a blow job is being shot from and how many times we can see the woman’s head bobbing up and down between a mans lap are all delicate considerations and ultimately the basis for determining whether a film garners an R rating or X rating. Obviously, for a filmmaker looking to have a film distributed though a major studio and shown to a large audience, these rating can make a difference. In addition, the creative process and artistic vision of a film can be hampered by having to pander to or limit footage in efforts to appease the MPAA and secure the desired rating.

Now that I’ve given this brief bit of information on the MPAA and it’s rating practices, I’d like to get into what truly bothers me about this whole system.

It is disturbing that VIOLENCE is much more tolerated than SEX!
I can name dozens of movies with ratings from PG to R which all show major amounts of violence and death: People being shot, stabbed, bludgeoned, beaten, sliced, hacked and more! It doesn’t seem to be a big deal to watch a movie and see people being killed in one manner or the other. In fact, you can put on the television and winess scenarios of death and violence in prime time and it’s no big deal! I gather we’re all pretty desensitized to it all.
Now sex on the other hand gets treated completely different.
We can watch people being hacked up, blown up, skinned alive and tortured, but watching a blow job (to completion or not) is waaaaaaaaaaay wicked and a bit too much! Not to mention seeing some cunnilingus action! Oh God forbid!! Now, I’m not talking about hard-core, camera between the legs, high definition close up shots of anatomy and all, I’m simply talking about seeing a couple, married or not, getting it on a bit maybe in a nice sixty nine! Or how about just a woman on her back, writhing in ecstasy while a man pleases her down below! And, I’m not talking about just random, gratuitous, casual sex either. Even sex between a loving, monogamous couple has to be scaled back or edited to be “appropriate!” Yes, there have been plenty of films that have had some graphic sex scenes: Fatal Attraction, 9 & 1/2 weeks, Basic Instinct and of course Monster’s Ball just to name a few. But still, for the most part, sex is treated as this terribly taboo subject to have to deal with in film and television and it’s often over scrutinized and subject to much more censorship than violence.
To me, this is just…odd. I mean, we can show the END OF LIFE! DESTRUCTION OF LIFE! Yet cringe and get all bent out of shape when it comes to the depiction of NATURAL DESIRE! HUMAN SEXUALITY! THE DISPLAYS OF LOVE AND PASSION! THE EXCHANGE OF PLEASURE AND BEAUTY OF LOVE IN IT’S PHYSICAL EXPRESSION!!


What’s wrong with this country!!??

A study out today by a Boston Children’s Hospital concluded that teens who watched adult themed movies and television shows as children become sexually active at a younger age than their peers. Dr. David Bickham, author of the study explained that “Children learn from media, and when they watch media with sexual references and innuendos, our research suggests that they are more likely to engage in sexual activity earlier in life.”

Well now…we wouldn’t want that! But hey, how about the studies that show children are more prone to violence when exposed to it through media at an early age?
Guess every kid playing GRAND THEFT AUTO is destined to be a gangster and every kid watching a bit of love making in a film or television show is destined to run out as soon as possible and get laid!